When Life Blows up in Your Face, Embrace it

Rei Chou
3 min readJul 5, 2022

This year has been nothing if not full of explosions.

Political explosions, literal munitions explosions, economic… well, those may have been more implosions. But with that has come lots of blow-ups in our lives as well.

Here’s the thing. Explosion are what this year is all ABOUT. I always host a talk at the beginning of the lunar new year because it sets the tone for what to expect and this year (Tiger year) is all about explosions. Explosive energy, emotions, and potential.

The key to navigating a year like this is not to just try to succeed, but to embrace the massive face-plant when our most valiant attempts land with a thud.

For some reason, we humans often need an explosion. And explosion in our health to wake us up to what’s really important. An explosion in our relationships to make us finally leave a toxic relationship we refused to recognize. An explosion of our careers or lives to set us on a truer path and inquiry into the more fundamental questions, “Who am I? What am I doing? What do I want to be doing? and Why?”

When things explode we see where our attachments were. To “success” and being validated or worthy. To love and finally having someone to take care of us and love us the way we haven’t been. To have others show up for us, respect us, do whatever it is for us that we do crave and desire and want but felt like we haven’t been able to have.

When it blows up in our face, we have an opportunity. To see what it is we truly believed. What we really wanted. What we felt to be true in order to get it. And who we are with or without it.

I have a deeply spiritual practice and it’s grounded in a non-dual understanding of the world. In this practice, everything is part of the divine. Nothing is separate.

In this approach to enlightenment and awakening, we don’t try to escape the difficulties of the world. We run head-first at them. We BLOW, SHIT UP.

We blow shit up to understand where our consciousness is running us in circles. We blow shit up to feel all the emotions a human can feel — good and bad. We blow shit up to understand the true nature of things.

Spirituality is not about just feeling the high frequency separate from the muck of life. That’s bypassing. And life is not just about indulging in the muck of life separate from something greater — that’s indulgent. It is about holding both at the same time.

Feeling the love of the universe while feeling totally betrayed.
Feeling the earth underneath you
while feeling utterly abandoned.
Feeling the light while feeling the rage and emptiness.

Hold the duality together and you have true one-ness. Nothing is separate from God. Not even your rage, grief and shame. Find God within it and you’ll be free.

This is an insight from my friend @zhenwuastrology and a lesson that I really learned this past week.

A deep thank you to @justinhartery for helping me find my way through this lesson when things exploded for me this week ❤️✨

#evolution #spirituality #spirit #awakening #leadership #disaster #tantra #nonduality #personaldevelopment #leadership #revelation #yearofthetiger

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Rei Chou

Artist, Healer, and Facilitator of transformative ventures. I help people live their aliveness and connect with themselves, each other + something greater